Everyone does it, even if we don’t admit it. We all make quick, passing assumptions about others; it’s simply part of being human.
The reassuring part is that most of these snap judgments are brief and fairly harmless. Still, have you ever stopped to think about the subtle things that might make others quietly form an opinion about you?
Here are twelve things people are probably, and quite possibly, judging you for without saying a word.
Your Email Etiquette
Your inbox is a waiting judgment arena. Putting “Sent from my iPhone” at the bottom of a message that is full of typos? Judged.
Taking a week to get back to someone with a simple question? Judged. Putting a signature book-length at the end of a message that has three credentials, a motivational quote, and a photo of your cat? Double judged.
Other individuals notice how you handle your digital messaging, and it will shape their perception of your professionalism and competence generally.
How You Treat Service Workers
This is a huge character revealer. How you treat waiters, baristas, cashiers, and customer service people tells you a lot.
Are you polite and even-tempered, even when something went amiss? Or are you entitled and condescending? People notice this a lot. Being obnoxious to service staff is a tip-off red flag, and your friends, date, or business partners are sure to take note.
Your Grocery Cart
Your supermarket shopping habits can reveal more about your lifestyle and personality than you might realize. A loaded basket with fresh kale, quinoa, and kombucha screamed, “I have my life together.”
A basket filled with frozen pizzas, six packets of crisps, and one wilted banana? That’s a different story. No one’s going to say it out loud, but that guy behind you at the checkout is creating an entire thing about your life based on your food choices.
How You Parallel Park
Pressure’s on. You’ve seen the perfect parking spot, but there is an audience of onlookers standing on the sidewalk. Every back-and-forth, every curb check, every exasperated sigh is being quietly criticized.
A silky-smooth one-shooter parallel park earns unspoken applause from pedestrians. A 12-point turn that ends with your tire thudding against the curb earns a collective, silent groan from the entire block.
Your Use of Speakerphone in Public
Nothing unites a silent bus, coffee shop, or waiting room in universal irritation quite like the person using their speakerphone to engage in the entire conversation.
It’s the worldwide symbol for “my conversation is more vital than your quiet.” You think you’re just being productive, but the rest of the world within range is judging you for your lack of situational intelligence and rooting for your battery to die.
The Books on Your Shelf (or Not)
When visitors arrive at your home, their eye naturally drifts over to your bookshelf. What they see (or do not see) seems to tell them something about you. Is it filled with great books, top non-fiction best-sellers, or a beloved fantasy novel series?
Or is it a router nook and a stack of outdated magazines? Your bookshelf is a reflection of your mind and interests, and don’t be sure your guests aren’t checking it out.
Your Tipping Habits
Dining at a restaurant, grabbing coffee, or ordering delivery all put your tipping habits in the spotlight, particularly when you’re in the company of others. Under-tipping makes you seem stingy, and over-tipping can be seen as a try-hard.
There is a tipping point, and your friends are definitely watching to determine if you cross it. It’s an immediate and easy method for them to gauge your spendthrifts.
Your Social Media Feed
Your thoughtfully edited grid of radiant vacation photos, brunch selfies, and inspirational quotes is for public consumption and public judgment. Are you an over-sharer? A humble-bragger?
Do you fight with distant relatives about politics? Your digital footprints tell a story, and your followers, friends, and even employers are reading it.
How You Deal with a Slow Walker
We’ve all done it: jammed behind someone trudging at the pace of a glacier down a busy sidewalk. Your reaction is the trial. Do you wheeze in disgust and attempt a shady cut into oncoming pedestrians?
Or do you take a deep breath and patiently await an opening? It’s a brief moment, but it’s a quick measure of your patience level.
Your Food-Sharing Philosophy
Are you a “Joey” who doesn’t share, or do you dig into your dessert first and give a bite to the crowd? Do you grab the appetizers as soon as they’re placed on the table, before anyone else has a chance to get some?
The way you handle the delicate social protocol of eating around others says a lot about you. People remember whether you’re a team player or a solo act.
The State Of Your Car
Your interior is often considered an extension of your personal space. A tidy and well-maintained interior conveys the message that you’re a cohesive unit.
Your interior, filled with stale coffee cups, fast food bags, and mysterious receipts, says otherwise. When you invite someone over for a ride, the first thing they instantly do is look at the situation, and yes, some judgment is happening.
Your Grammar and Spelling
On paper, online posts, and social media posts, your grammar is in the public eye. Regular mixing up of “your” and “you’re” or “there,” “their,” and “they’re” isn’t going unnoticed.
While a single mistake here and there is excusable, a repeated pattern of mistakes can encourage people to make judgments about your education level or work ethic. It is a petty thing, but it is a surprisingly common basis for silent judgment.
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Disclaimer – This list is solely the author’s opinion based on research and publicly available information. It is not intended to be professional advice.
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