These days, courtesy is a sought-after commodity amidst the hurly burly of the hyper-distracted world.
According to a UCLA study, only 7 percent of adults use the word “please” in their daily requests. Hard to swallow. And that’s not all. An incredible 78 percent of businesses report having had to implement workplace etiquette training initiatives as we enter 2024, as professional behavior is taking a nosedive. It creates an image of a society where manners are becoming increasingly sidetracked, leaving harmonies unresolved in both our personal and working lives.
That is why I gathered 11 outdated manners that are nevertheless valued (despite the era of smartphones and the spread of TikTok dances). These are the sort of life skills that people are going to nod their head to and go Hmm, there is someone who was brought up right.
Saying “please” and “thank you”
Have you ever noticed how much warmth the phrase “Thank you” can bring to a conversation, despite its seeming insignificance? It is such a simple thing, yet one that is quickly disappearing. Research has shown that expressing gratitude —such as saying “please” and “thank you” more often —enhances happiness and fosters a stronger connection with others.
At a coffee shop or when requesting a favor from a coworker, this is the ultimate form of respect and appreciation to use these pronouncements. The words that parents focus on when their children are small go beyond teaching politeness; they also lay the groundwork for empathy and genuine human connections.
Holding the door for Others
Imagine yourself in a situation where you are running into a building clutching a wheeling bouquet of groceries, and some stranger opens the door for you. It is a small, worthwhile effort— anything that immediately makes your day brighter.
It is not about being chivalrous or adhering to outdated roles, but instead being considerate of the person behind you. It is a habit that, when applied without insensitivity, makes society’s spaces feel free. A little kindness goes a long way.
Covering your mouth when coughing or sneezing
We’ve all been there. A person outside sneezes without covering their mouth, and you feel the urge to hold your breath and lean aside. Covering your mouth is not only a courtesy practice, but also an indicator of your respect towards other people’s comfort and health.
Moreover, it is an indicator of self-awareness that parents usually start educating their children at a young age. This exposes us to a clean, comfortable, typical habitat and indicates a mature, caring upbringing.
Writing handwritten thank-you notes
There’s magic in finding a handwritten thank-you card in an envelope. It happens at a time when we have so many texts saying thanks, but that is the beauty of it. Research indicates that writing and delivering thank-you notes makes recipients happier.
These small messages written on pieces of paper evolve into big messages of appreciation, care, and recognition. There is no surprise that individuals growing up with such a tradition leave such imprints.
Chewing with your mouth closed
Have you ever dined with a person who chews loudly, and you suddenly lose your appetite? Table habits, such as not chewing with your mouth open, are more than just polite; they are a sign of mindfulness that ensures shared meals are pleasant.
Proper table manners demonstrate self-control and consideration, fostering a sense of comfort in a social setting. Teaching these skills to parents not only fosters polite children but also equips their children to have a more encouraging experience in all contexts.
Saying “excuse me”
Bump into somebody or have to excuse yourself from a conversation? A polite “excuse me” works wonders. It is a saying that makes interactions go more smoothly, both in a crowded subway and at a family event.
An excuse me is a sign of awareness of who is around you and of respect. It is a habit that, once instilled, makes the social space much more congenial.
Reaching out on birthdays
A brief birthday message to someone may not seem like a significant act, but it goes a long way. It’s not about flashy gifts or grand gestures. Subtle words or a phone call demonstrate sensitivity and build a good relationship.
Individuals who have been brought up with this practice are aware of the need to celebrate others, regardless of how minor the symbol of recognition might be.
Apologizing sincerely
We’ve all encountered someone who refuses to admit they’re wrong. It’s frustrating, right? This is where natural apologies come as a breath of fresh air. Admitting to a mistake not only restores the relationship but also establishes trust.
This old-fashioned habit reflects strength, accountability, and emotional maturity. Parents who develop it with their children raise them to become adults who are not apprehensive about correcting wrongs.
Addressing adults with respect
Do you remember when, as a child, you had to call adults’ Mr.’ or ‘Mrs.’? Although formal titles are relatively uncommon nowadays, the idea of respect still lives on.
Expressing politeness in the way we address people, whether it’s a boss or a neighbour, says much about our upbringing. It is a small step to recognize another person’s experience and place in your life.
Standing for introductions
It is something classic about standing up and introducing yourself or greeting somebody. It is the sort of respect that indicates you care about the interaction.
It is not reserved for either gender or circumstance; rather, it is a universal approach to demonstrate attentiveness and confidence. Using this habit is graceful and impactful in all initial impressions.
Sitting down for family dinners
Suppose the following situation: the smell of the food, cooked at home, the sound of laughter in a dining room, and the critical discussion during dinner. Family meals are not only shared meals, but also a bonding event.
In our seemingly too-busy world, it’s easy to find time to communicate, spend time together, and build relationships —simply by taking the time to sit down together. It is something one does as a habit that leaves a memory behind, creating a sense of respect and togetherness.
Key takeaway
Some people may think that manners are an outdated concept, but the effects are eternal. It could be a handwritten thank-you note, an apology, or an old-fashioned “please,” and these are part of their customs and habits that demonstrate good manners, empathy, respect, and being well-brought-up.
And the best part? They are entirely free to exercise, yet they give such infinite rewards. Each can make everyday interactions not only easier, but truly more important.
Disclaimer–This list is solely the author’s opinion based on research and publicly available information. It is not intended to be professional advice.
Disclosure: This article was developed with the assistance of AI and was subsequently reviewed, revised, and approved by our editorial team.
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